While the plan of having our mother-in-law live with us is taxing the reality of the situation is that the people I was with and I may have no choice.
Our choices in home care are becoming more limited as her mental faculties are slipping farther plus farther away.
She is childlike on most mornings plus makes everyday choices that can be dangerous. Both of us have looked into the opportunity of having a home health aide stay with her during the hours while the people I was with and I are at toil although she seems angry when a stranger is in the house. Both of us can’t risk her hurting herself or others either. Both of us need to make some adjustments to our home to make this modern arrangement work. The section that the people I was with and I will be using as an home for her was never intended as a space for someone to live so the people I was with and I need to add a powder room, update the space with it’s own heating plus cooling, plus make sure that each exit has an alarmed lock so the people I was with and I guess if she is leaving unattended. By making this safe space the people I was with and I can hire someone for minimum care such as meal prep plus socialization instead of having a higher level of full on care. If she feels that the woman is basically going to see her plus having a meal with her she will be less likely to be aggressive, but she would hopefully view them as a neighbor instead of a caregiver. Both of us checked into the chances of a separate heating plus cooling unit plus the people I was with and I found that the people I was with and I can have a mini chop unit installed that can be controlled by our iphones. My mother-in-law would not have the ability to adjust the temperature on her own so the space would not be too tepid or too freezing at any given time. I am sure that this will be the best choice for all of us when it is all done.